With the holidays quickly approaching, I’ve been thinking about how my Thanksgiving and Christmas meals will look now that I am more focussed on eating healthy. I feel best when I eat well, but don’t want food to get in the way of enjoying each moment with my family. Are the two mutually exclusive?
I don’t think so. I believe I can be respectful of the people preparing the meals, while still not diverting back to my “eat all the food” mentality. Will my mom be deeply offended if I pass on the frozen Sister Schubert rolls? Hardly.
I apologize for a lot of things throughout the day. It’s not uncommon in my southern culture to do so, but when thinking about the reasons or sheer amount of times I say “I’m sorry,” the data is ridiculous. “I’m sorry, but…” before I speak. “Oh, I’m sorry” every time I pass someone or even worse- if that someone runs into me.
This habit even spills over to me apologizing for things that involve taking care of myself. When ordering at a restaurant, “I’m sorry, can I get the dressing on the side?” or “I’m sorry I’m so complicated.” Wait, being complicated is the whole point of eating at a restaurant. If I wanted simple, I’d be at home making my own easy recipes (yes, that was a plug to go look at my recipes).
Being healthy and taking care of my body is not a sorry subject. If there are certain foods I want to turn down, then I need no other excuse. And if I all of the sudden I feel the urge go rampant on some biscuits and gravy and two chocolate cheesecakes on Christmas morning… well, then I’ll only be apologizing to myself. Even then, it’s not the end of the world.
Up until this year, I really never turned down food and I think that stemmed from my desire to constantly please others. I still struggle with this and say “sure” to something I don’t want just because it’s being offered to me. I know that sounds strange and maybe disgusting, but it’s true. Here are some common situations where I now give myself permission to simply say, “no, thank you.”
Just because it’s there, someone made it for me, a co-worker brought it to the office, the shoe store is having a special event with macaroons, or the stranger in the car is offering me candy. No, thank you.
I’m cold, it’s hot or vice versa
PSL from Starbucks in the winter and froyo twice a week in the summer because I’m hot or it’s cold and it’ll make me feel good. No, thank you.
Peer pressure without the pressure
Everyone around me is eating, but I just finished dinner. Maybe I’m still hungry. Should I make another plate and eat socially? No, thank you.
Chips and salsa, appetizer rolls, pick you your poison. No, thank you. I’ll drink my water and wait for my entree.
Load my plate with the soul-food native to Memphis of chicken gizzards, cold slaw, hot wings, and fried everything? No, thank you. I’ll be there and be the life of the party, but I’ll also pack a lunch.
The holidays are about enjoying time spent with family and friends. My family and my friends are amazing and supportive the decisions I make and this year, I’m going to extend myself the same invitation to be unapologetically me.
I don’t know about you, but I thoroughly enjoyed my first link up. Thank you, Amanda, for hosting.
Do you try to stay healthy over the holidays?
Do you every say yes to food just to be polite?
What are 2 things you’re excited about for today?
What are you making for dinner tonight?